You booked the call. Then you couldn't come.


Greetings From

Ember & Bloom

Hi friend,

Today I want to tell you about someone who didn't show up — and what she taught me without ever saying a word.

A little while ago, a widow booked a call with me. She decided, yes, I need this. And when the moment came, she couldn't pick up the phone.

I couldn't stop thinking about her. Not because she didn't come — that happens — but because I'm fairly sure I know exactly what stopped her. It's the same thing that stopped me, more than once, in my early grief. And it has very little to do with the call itself.

If you've ever reached for help and then couldn't quite go through with it, this week's blog is for you. I don't think you failed. I think something else was happening.

Just for You

Something to Try

This week, notice the judgment — then set it down.

When the voice says
I should be over this by now,
or who am I to make this a big deal,
pause.

Answer it gently, out loud if you can:
My grief is worth it,
because my love is.

You don't have to believe it yet.
Just practice saying it.

I'll meet you here again next Monday.
Until then, take one small breath and know that it is enough.

Hugs 💜💚
— Gladys

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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