The Lonely That Isn't About Being Alone | Ember & Bloom


Greetings From

Ember & Bloom

Hi friend,

Today I want to talk about a kind of lonely that surprised me. The kind that doesn't go away when the room is full.

After Gary died, I could be surrounded by people who loved me and still feel completely alone. For a long time I didn't understand why. Company helped for a little while, and then the visit would end, everyone would go home, and the empty feeling came back sharper than before.

It took me a while to figure out what was really going on. It wasn't about company at all. And once I understood that, I found a way to carry it that actually helped. It's not what most people would tell you to do.

I wrote about it this week. You can read it here: When the Loneliness Feels Endlessโ€‹

โœฆ Just for You โœฆ

Something to Try

This week, end each day with three things.

Before you turn out the light,
write down three things.
Three things that went okay today.
Or three things you did for yourself.

They can be tiny.
โ€‹I drank enough water.
I stepped outside for a minute.
I heard a song I love.

Loneliness pulls your eyes toward everything that's missing.
This turns them, just for a moment, toward what is here.

Three small things.
That's enough.

I'll meet you here again next Monday.
Until then, take one small breath and know that it is enough.

Hugs ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š
โ€” Gladys

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