Greetings From Ember & Bloom Your husband died. You're a professional. And the question won't stop screaming in your head: How much of my grief do I show and still be seen as competent? The answer might surprise you. I had to figure this out when the heat went out in my office and I faced a situation I wasn't ready for. What I learned about that conversation—and what I asked for instead of what I confessed—might change how you think about telling your boss you're a widow. This week I'm wrote...

Greetings From Ember & Bloom After my husband died, people crossed my lines because they did not know where those lines were. And honestly, sometimes I did not know either. Grief changed so much about me. What I could handle. What I wanted to talk about. How much energy I had. Even what I needed from the people who loved me. A boundary is simply knowing what is okay for you and what is not. Then you tell the other person. I had a friend who kept asking when I was going to get back to...

Greetings From Ember & Bloom Hi friend, Today I want to ask you the question I ask nearly every widow I sit with. It sounds simple. It almost never is. What do you want for yourself? When I ask that, I'm often met with silence. Sometimes a little laugh, like she thinks she should already know. Sometimes just, "I don't know." And that makes complete sense. For a long time, life was about we. Then he died, and the future you were walking into died with him. So of course "what do you want now"...