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Everyone Thinks You're Doing Better | Ember & Bloom

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Greetings From

Ember & Bloom

Hi friend,

Today I want to talk about a sentence I said over and over in my first year: "I'm okay."

I wasn't.

Maybe you know this moment. Someone asks how you are, and you can feel what they want the answer to be. So you give it to them. You smile. You nod. You say you're fine, because explaining the truth feels like more than you can carry in a grocery store aisle.

And then somewhere along the way, a quieter question creeps in: shouldn't I be better by now?

I want to tell you where that pressure really comes from โ€” because it is probably not where you think. And I want to tell you what I have stopped doing because of it.

I wrote this week's blog about it. You can read it here: When the World Expects You to Be Okay Before You Are Readyโ€‹

โœฆ Just for You โœฆ

Something to Try

This week, answer honestly. Just once.

When someone safe asks how you are, skip the "I'm fine."

Try: "Today is hard."
Or: "I am still finding my way."
Or: "I just don't have the strength today."

One person. One honest answer.
Then notice how it feels to not perform.

That is enough for this week.

I'll meet you here again next Monday. Until then, take one small breath and know that it is enough.

Hugs ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š

โ€” Gladys

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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Ember & Bloom Coaching

Gladys Jean Ullstam

I help widowed people to hold the ember of love and find new blooms. I believe in the power of creativity, journaling, and community to bring hope. Read my posts and visit my site for more information. Not widowed? Please share this information with any widowed people you know. Thanks.

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