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Ember & Bloom Coaching

1,000 days older than Gary.

Published 2 months agoย โ€ขย 1 min read

Greetings From

Ember & Bloom

Hi friend,

There is something I want to talk to you about today.

Something the world will not tell you.

Something your own mind has probably been doing to you for a long time.

And once you see it, you cannot unsee it.

This weekend, I crossed a number I never thought I would reach.

I am not going to tell you what the number is here.

But I will tell you this.

For the first two years after Gary's last breath, I counted every single day.

I knew the number without checking. Day 47. Day 102. Deep into the 500s.

And every single day, I used that number against myself.

Maybe you have been doing this too.

Maybe someone has been doing it to you.

This week I wrote about what time has been doing to your heart, and how to stop letting it.

โ€‹1,000 Days Older Than Gary: What Time Taught Me About Griefโ€‹

โœฆ Just for You โœฆ

Something to Try

It is easy to think you have not come far during this season of darkness.

Take some time today to write down a short list of things you have done.

Anything counts.

  • Getting out of bed.
  • Pumping gas.
  • Grocery shopping.
  • Going to work.
  • Answering a hard text message.
  • Folding the laundry.
  • Showing up.

You are doing miraculous work.

Create the list to remind yourself.

Keep it close.

I'll meet you here again next Monday.

Until then, take one small breath and know that it is enough.

Hugs ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š

โ€” Gladys

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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Ember & Bloom Coaching

Gladys Jean Ullstam

I help widowed people to hold the ember of love and find new blooms. I believe in the power of creativity, journaling, and community to bring hope. Read my posts and visit my site for more information. Not widowed? Please share this information with any widowed people you know. Thanks.

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